Comments on: In Mourning: How Perfect http://luzmcosta.com/2010/01/in-mourning-how-perfect/#utm_source=feed&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=feed a rape survivor's narrative Sat, 05 Jun 2010 14:20:44 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Paulo http://luzmcosta.com/2010/01/in-mourning-how-perfect/comment-page-1/#comment-384 Paulo Wed, 06 Jan 2010 12:32:38 +0000 http://luzmcosta.com/?p=810#comment-384 and more fuck!!! indeed where else is there to say?! Not only I'm not in the New Jersey, I'm not even in America, I'm all the way in England, if there was a way I could be there I would, sadly it's not possible, but my thoughts will be with him and his friends. thanks for the kind words, I can tell you that he definitely reached me and reached out for me, which just shows what a truly amazing human being he was. a great loss... and more fuck!!! indeed where else is there to say?!
Not only I’m not in the New Jersey, I’m not even in America, I’m all the way in England, if there was a way I could be there I would, sadly it’s not possible, but my thoughts will be with him and his friends.
thanks for the kind words, I can tell you that he definitely reached me and reached out for me, which just shows what a truly amazing human being he was.
a great loss…

]]> By: Luz http://luzmcosta.com/2010/01/in-mourning-how-perfect/comment-page-1/#comment-383 Luz Wed, 06 Jan 2010 02:04:33 +0000 http://luzmcosta.com/?p=810#comment-383 What a horrible joke this would be! Yet I’m sorry to say it isn’t a joke. We’re all heartbroken. He tried so hard to make his life mean something. He wanted that more than anything---was always chasing it. He never realized how much meaning had already given to the world. You should count yourself among his friends, Paulo. Sang didn’t waste time on anyone who wasn’t worthy of his time. Clearly, your acknowledgement of one another went beyond words to that very meaning he was always hoping for and already had. You say it’s like a part of you is gone; that’s exactly how a friend in mourning feels. It’s exactly how everyone here feels. So, though I know you’re not in the Jersey area, you’re welcome to come to the viewing. I only knew him since last March, yet I feel like my brother just died. Given all I’ve said, your apprehension over any limitations space and time may place on your grief has been proved groundless. Sang was an incredible person, capable of reaching into people despite space and time. It’s why I agree with you: fuck... I’ve been screaming that into pillows and shirts all day. FUCK! He was 43. He had time to do what he wanted to do. He was always looking toward the future lately. He was doing so much for himself these last few months. Fuck. Fuck fuck fuck... What a horrible joke this would be! Yet I’m sorry to say it isn’t a joke. We’re all heartbroken. He tried so hard to make his life mean something. He wanted that more than anything—was always chasing it. He never realized how much meaning had already given to the world.

You should count yourself among his friends, Paulo. Sang didn’t waste time on anyone who wasn’t worthy of his time. Clearly, your acknowledgement of one another went beyond words to that very meaning he was always hoping for and already had.

You say it’s like a part of you is gone; that’s exactly how a friend in mourning feels. It’s exactly how everyone here feels. So, though I know you’re not in the Jersey area, you’re welcome to come to the viewing.

I only knew him since last March, yet I feel like my brother just died. Given all I’ve said, your apprehension over any limitations space and time may place on your grief has been proved groundless. Sang was an incredible person, capable of reaching into people despite space and time. It’s why I agree with you: fuck…

I’ve been screaming that into pillows and shirts all day. FUCK! He was 43. He had time to do what he wanted to do. He was always looking toward the future lately. He was doing so much for himself these last few months. Fuck. Fuck fuck fuck…

]]> By: Paulo http://luzmcosta.com/2010/01/in-mourning-how-perfect/comment-page-1/#comment-382 Paulo Tue, 05 Jan 2010 23:25:26 +0000 http://luzmcosta.com/?p=810#comment-382 I can't believe it!! I am truly shocked. I'm sorry but I thought you were having some kind of sick joke at his expense!! Of course I didn't know him personally, but his comments have helped immensely at a difficult time in my life. And his writing has been a joy to me over the last few months. Not being a friend makes it quite hard and odd. I don't know him so I don't know his friends, I can't go to his funeral and pay my respects... I mean, hell, I don't even know how to feel, it's like a part of me is now gone, albeit encountered it so few months ago. shit, death waits for no one and no time. it's a big loss. I'm sure his friends will miss him very dearly. I'll miss him, even if he only reached me through his writing... don't even know what else to say or if I'm making any sense. fuck... I can’t believe it!! I am truly shocked. I’m sorry but I thought you were having some kind of sick joke at his expense!!
Of course I didn’t know him personally, but his comments have helped immensely at a difficult time in my life.
And his writing has been a joy to me over the last few months.
Not being a friend makes it quite hard and odd. I don’t know him so I don’t know his friends, I can’t go to his funeral and pay my respects… I mean, hell, I don’t even know how to feel, it’s like a part of me is now gone, albeit encountered it so few months ago.
shit, death waits for no one and no time.
it’s a big loss. I’m sure his friends will miss him very dearly. I’ll miss him, even if he only reached me through his writing…
don’t even know what else to say or if I’m making any sense.
fuck…

]]> By: Paulo http://luzmcosta.com/2010/01/in-mourning-how-perfect/comment-page-1/#comment-381 Paulo Tue, 05 Jan 2010 23:13:24 +0000 http://luzmcosta.com/?p=810#comment-381 are you joking?!?! are you joking?!?!

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